Man not on plan

One of the biggest obstacles I faced 4.5 years ago when I started eating the Trim Healthy Mama way way my husband, Jason. He did not want to make any changes to the way he ate, which was very much the standard American diet, he likes his chips, candies, frozen pizza, pop, and all that processed junk. He showed he was thinking about me by bringing home a candy bar, this continued even after I told him I was no longer eating sugar, I would end up eating the candy just to make him happy. The bringing me candie didn't stop till I quit eating them once the candy laid on the counter for a few days he would eat it himself, he took that as a cue that I did not want them anymore, it took most of the 1st year in my journey to reach that point. I was very careful not to push Jason to join me on plan, the only meal we eat together as a family most days is supper so I made food similar to what I always had and tweaked my plate so it was on plan. One way I did this by cooking meat/potato/ vegetable meals and leaving the potato off my plate, this lead to Jason asking where is your potato. When I would make spaghetti I would eat the meat and sauce over broccoli, which lead to where are your noodles. He was always noticing what I left off my plate and making comments about it. These comments were not meant to hurt me, but they bugged me very much.

I had to learn to just say no to all the junk that was in the house, he wanted that food and that is his choice and its is his home to, so he has the right to have the food he wants. I found easy on plan things to have instead of the junk like pork rinds, 85% dark chocolate, nuts, and on plan NSI baked goods (as I went NSI for the first 2 years).

Well after that 1st year he stopped making comments about the food I left off my plate, and I slowly started changing over a few things for the whole family nothing big. I started by adding more THM casseroles and soups into the normale rotation for supper. Then I started to do more THM baking, I won't lie and say he loved it, truthfully the kids and I like most of the stuff I back but he is harder to please. I think he is having a harder time with the baked goods even today because he will not give up processed bars and snacks. Each year he comes around a little more and small changes are made for him, I am careful to not push him. I don't fight him on his food choices but encourage him to try on plan things and keep a list of what he likes.

It has been difficult at times to not eat the chips and treats in the house but I made my mind up and pushed though till i got to the point I am at now that I don't want them. The hardest part for me still today is to not push the THM lifestyle on Jason, even after he was diagnosed as type 2 diabetic, I have to remember that each person needs to make the choice for themselves to eat healthy. The journey to health is individual and looks different for everyone. Over the past 4.5 years with the small changes Jason has made he has lost weight,and each year he makes a few more healthier choices. This gives me hope that someday he will be on plan with me walking in a healthier life.

I know many other women struggle with their husbands not wanting to go on plan with them or not supporting them in their THM journey, I want hose women to know you can still do this. Make your health a priority and fight for yourself. Make the changes you need while still caring for your family's needs. Hopefully like mine they will see this is what you want and what is best for you and come around to support you in their own way. That reminds me now instead of buying me candy bars Jason buys cheese curds and eats 1/2 then brings me the other half. Yes he found a new way to show me he was thinking about me and that he loves me. These small acts mean the most in life.

Good luck on your journey and if you need support that your not finding at home feel free to reach out to me, I have been there and you can make it though and live a healthier life with THM.

How we have changed through the years, and the weight he has lost even being a man not on plan.

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